Do you ever hold off on a decision solely based on thinking something better might come along? A better job offer, a better deal on a purchase at another store, only to find out it's sold out there. Oh, the position was filled while you were pondering your options. I am not one to see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. I commit or decline promptly and decisively. I like it that way. I am a yes/no person. You will know how I feel about something, because I say it out loud. MaryJanes has taught me a few things about the way I communicate. I am a reactionary person, she is a thinker. My sister is a thinker as well. I didn't get that trait, I have to learn it, develop it. It isn't easy for me to do this. I want my feelings know now, this second. I sometimes later regret my actions, some times I don't. I usually think of a way I could have stated my feelings in a better way, usually after a day or so. I want to have the communication qualities that my sister and daughter have in them naturally. The only thing that I won't change about the way I communicate is when a child or a pet is being miss treated. I will speak my mind loudly and clearly in these situations. Some times I get "a look" and that's ok, my gut says intervene, and that's what I will do.
But when it comes to communication in general, I want to approach this aspect of my life with more maturity, tact and courtesy. Anyway, that's what's on my mind today. I thought it through, expressed how I feel and on with life. It's ok, I feel calmer.
What do you think? Do you hold out to see what better opportunity might come along before you commit? Do you speak up loudly before letting your head get wrapped around the situation?
Me, I am still growing up and finding myself. Is that odd? I am a grandmother of four, and I finally feel like I might be learning who I am. An imperfect, impulsive mess at times. Yet, I am upfront and honest about who I am and how I feel. I can't sit still in a movie if the music moves me, I enjoy too much cream with my coffee and more chocolate than the average. I cry at Hallmark commercials, kiss dogs on the lips and make sure I am on the giving end more than on the taking. And if you ask me a favor, a question, or give me an invitation, you will get a yes or a no, right then and there.....that's me. That's the way I like it.
PS: If I ever hurt your feelings by the way I communicated to you....I am truly sorry. I am a work in progress! Some times a mess, sometimes healing, some times feeling balanced.